A Conversation About Beauty

As I watch my daughter grow up, I am reminded of my own childhood.  I see so much of my little girl self in her. Adventurous. Bold. Strong. Funny. Kind. Thoughtful.

I watch the way my daughter plays and it brings back my own childhood fantasy play. While she’s playing out Minecraft stories and pretending to be a Mario princess, I pretended to be Daisy Duke out running the sheriff, Princess Leia fighting the galactic battle of good and evil, or Wonder Woman flying around in my invisible jet dodging bullets with golden bracelets and forcing men to tell the truth with my golden lasso.

It makes me smile.

Then I think about growing out of childhood and becoming a teenager.  The turbulent road of growing into a young woman. All the mine fields I had to navigate. Was I beautiful? Was I worthy? Was I desirable? I think about how I struggled to find the validation of my beauty in the world around me.

They say hindsight is 20/20. I was truly blinded to the truth during those years. I had no idea of what true beauty was or where it came from. It wasn’t until my mid to late twenties when I began to understand beauty. I’m in my forties now and I feel like I’ve finally come to truly see what feminine beauty is and where is comes from.

Here’s what I want my daughter to know that I did not.

  • You are made in the image of God.

“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”  Genesis 1:27

It’s really hard to think of yourself as junk when you realize that you are modeled after God himself.  The Lord is splendid.  Beautiful.  And to say you are anything other than splendid and beautiful is to mar the very image of God.  So just don’t do it.  Never call yourself ugly.  Never call yourself fat.  You. Are. Beautifully. Splendid. Period.  Even if you don’t feel like it.  The reality is that you ARE.

  • You are extremely good.

Read Genesis chapter 1.  I love the story of God’s creation. I don’t understand it, but I love knowing that we were all created by a loving and intentional God.  We did not happen by accident.  It wasn’t a cosmic boom or happen stance that earth and all its inhabitants came into existence. God created nature and humanity and he did so with intention, with reason and with purpose.

When I read this chapter I see that God created everything. The land and oceans, the stars in the sky, the birds of the air, the creepy things of the ground (although I can think of a few many legged creatures I wish the Lord had not created).  And when he finished each task he looked at his creation and said, “It was good.”  But this pattern changes after he created man and woman.  All of his other creation he look upon after the work was complete and called “good.”  However, when he finished making man and woman in his own image he looked upon it as the crown of his creation and called it “VERY good” (emphasis mine).  So never ever think of yourself as anything other than very good. If you look into nature and see something beautiful, a sunset or a butterfly, know that you are even more beautiful than that.  God himself says so.  While they are “good”, you are “very good.”  And yes… that means you are more beautiful than the most beautiful of all God’s creation.  You have purpose and are worthy simply because of that.

“I praise you (Lord) because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” (Psalm 139:14).

Some translations use “marvelous” instead of  “wonderful.”  The definition of the both of these works literally means “extremely good.”  So the Psalmist, David, goes a bit further in his revelation of who he is as God’s creation.  Not only did God say we are “very good” we are actually “extremely good.”  So who are we to argue that we are ugly or fat?!

  • God himself is enthralled with us

Psalm 45 is a poem about a bride and bridegroom.  It parallel’s the church’s relationship with Christ.  We are the bride and he is the bridegroom.  I love what Psalm 45:11a says.

“For your royal Bridegroom is ravished by your beautiful brightness. Bow in reverence before him, for he is your Lord!” (TPT)

“Let the king be enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your Lord” (NIV)

Did you get that!?

Ravish – “to give great pleasure to someone.”

Enthrall – “to keep someone completely interested.”

This means that we give great pleasure to the Lord.  Just by being us!  It also means that we hold God’s attention.  He will never cancel an appointment with us.  He will never be distracted in our presence.  You are completely ravishing and enthralling just the way you are.  As his creation.


So what does all this mean?! I am a firm believer that we become what we say.  Our thoughts and our self speak are powerful things. How many times did I stand in front of the mirror saying things about myself that just did not line up with God’s Word?!  Instead I should have been speaking God’s Word over myself and speaking LIFE instead of death.

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”  Proverbs 18:21a


I want to challenge you to speak life over yourself. Rather than stand in front of the mirror and point out the flaws that you see, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the truths of what God says about you to you. Then start speaking them out over yourself.  Look in the mirror and say, “I am made in God’s image and that can’t be anything but awesome.  He is after all GOD! I am ravishing.  God is enthralled with me. God himself is can not be distracted by anything when He’s with me. I am completely interesting and give pleasure to those around me. I am not only very good but extremely good. God himself called me “very good”.  I am whole. I am complete.  God made me so.”

These are things I wish I had known while navigating those dangerous streets of becoming a young woman.  When I was tempted to let my value and beauty be dictated by the crush of a boy instead of the position my Father gave me, I wish someone had been there to fill me with these truths.  Oh how I had known confidently that I am BEAUTY, just because God made me.  It has nothing to do with the number of boys that said I was desirable.  Beauty is based on my position with God and nothing else.

So grow, my sweet daughter, knowing that you are beautiful.  That you are loved.  That you are enthralling and marvelously made.  Just the way you are.


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