Recently, I met a gentleman who was on the verge of leaving his wife after almost 30 years of marriage. After he admitted why he had a suitcase with him, my heart ached. I immediately started praying in my spirit about the Lord’s will for this encounter. I don’t believe in coincidences. I believe in purposeful encounters. The Lord very quickly gave me a word for this man. Very lovingly I shared with him something I learned from reading a book years ago.
Love & Respect by Eggerichs. It talks about how men need respect and women need love. However, women give love when men need respect and men give respect when their wives need love. Then two very well intentioned people get on a crazy cycle where they step on each other for not getting what they need. In my times working with couples, I have found that if I can get men loving and women respecting, their marriages will survive. Almost in tears, he thanked me and confessed he needed to hear that. He said He believed meeting me was a Divine appointment and I agreed. I just love moments like this.
It just really got me thinking about some of my favorite scriptures on marriage. I love to pick up an old favorite in a new translation. It makes it fresh and new. I wanted to share one of my favorite marriage passages in one of favorite fresh translations.
Ephesians 5:22-33 in The Passions Translation
“For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything.
And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw.
Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self. No one abuses his own body, but pampers it—serving and satisfying its needs. That’s exactly what Christ does for his church! He serves and satisfies us as members of his body.
For this reason a man is to leave his father and his mother and lovingly hold to his wife, since the two have become joined as one flesh. Marriage is the beautiful design of the Almighty, a great and sacred mystery—meant to be a vivid example of Christ and his church. So every married man should be gracious to his wife just as he is gracious to himself. And every wife should be tenderly devoted to her husband.” (Ephesians 5:22-33 (TPT)
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